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<p><strong>By Jonk WA Mashamba</strong><br />
jonkm@greateralextoday.co.za</p>

<p>GLADYS Nomvula Magongwa (20) doesn’t always look this way! A young and once beautiful woman is living in fear after her boyfriend violently disfigured her face with a blunt object. The crushing incident happened at the perpetrator’s who she said was possessive and controlling. She says her holiday season was an absolute nightmare! ‘‘I opened a case of assault and he was soon arrested,” she said holding back her tears. The incident happened outside his place and after that he locked her in his room.</p>

<p>He threatened her with violence saying she won’t leave.’’ After realising she was trying to call the police, he took the phone and smashed it against the wall. “He tore my clothes and forced himself on me while I was crying and still in pain from the beating,’’ said Nomvula Magongwa. Thabang Mjankero Tlowana (35), has been jealous of her looks. He was released on bail and is expected to appear in court on the 8th February 2022. He allegedly hated how other men would complement her, and how his friends mocked him.</p>

<p>‘‘If I have visited him just looking pretty, he would just get angry. When we started dating, he told me stop wearing skirts and dresses so I was always in jeans. No matter how long the skirt is, he would tell me I’m trying to attract other men. If for, instance, we›re walking on the street and he sees someone looking at me, I know when we get home I’ll be in trouble.” ‘‘ I have no control over who looks at me and who doesn’t,’’ says Nomvula, originally from Ga-Mashashane Polokwane. However, she grew up in Alex. Whilst she takes care of her bruised face, she says the man started mistreating her a few months after they started dating. ‘‘His family would get involved and plead with me, to forgive him. They’ve always condoned his behaviour to a point where I once got him arrested as he had badly beaten me up and they bailed him out and begged me to drop the charges.”</p>

<p>‘‘He would tell me how useless and how stupid I was. He would call me all sorts of names, but I stayed. He is manipulative and would always gaslight me.’’ She says her friends, his friends, her family and his family were random people on the streets.’’ Because sometimes he’d hit me and drag me in the streets where everyone could see. ‘‘He was always suspecting that I’m cheating, knowing very well that he›s the one that’s cheating. This is the guy that does things, and these things start eating him to the point where he thought I was doing the same things too. ‘‘My phone never had a password and he always insisted on going through it and usually found nothing. But his phone always had passwords and I wasn’t even allowed to touch it. He would get phone calls at night and I’m not even allowed to ask what›s happening or there›s gonna be war.’’</p>

<p>After the ordeal, she only managed to leave on Friday morning and opened a case against him. ‘‘He got arrested on Saturday midday. The whole abuse made me feel worthless. It made me feel weak and it traumatized me. It drained me. At some point I started blaming myself for attracting people. He told me that I can’t just leave him and continue with life as normal. He would come to my house and strangle me outside my gate. ‘‘He would push me inside the car, lock it and take me to his place by force.’’ Whenever she left him, he sent her photos of muthi and threatened to ruin her life. She said that he would tell her that once he had finished with her, no one would approach her.</p>
GBV victim lives in horror

By Jonk WA Mashamba
jonkm@greateralextoday.co.za

GLADYS Nomvula Magongwa (20) doesn’t always look this way! A young and once beautiful woman is living in fear after her boyfriend violently disfigured her face with a blunt object. The crushing incident happened at the perpetrator’s who she said was possessive and controlling. She says her holiday season was an absolute nightmare! ‘‘I opened a case of assault and he was soon arrested,” she said holding back her tears. The incident happened outside his place and after that he locked her in his room.

He threatened her with violence saying she won’t leave.’’ After realising she was trying to call the police, he took the phone and smashed it against the wall. “He tore my clothes and forced himself on me while I was crying and still in pain from the beating,’’ said Nomvula Magongwa. Thabang Mjankero Tlowana (35), has been jealous of her looks. He was released on bail and is expected to appear in court on the 8th February 2022. He allegedly hated how other men would complement her, and how his friends mocked him.

‘‘If I have visited him just looking pretty, he would just get angry. When we started dating, he told me stop wearing skirts and dresses so I was always in jeans. No matter how long the skirt is, he would tell me I’m trying to attract other men. If for, instance, we›re walking on the street and he sees someone looking at me, I know when we get home I’ll be in trouble.” ‘‘ I have no control over who looks at me and who doesn’t,’’ says Nomvula, originally from Ga-Mashashane Polokwane. However, she grew up in Alex. Whilst she takes care of her bruised face, she says the man started mistreating her a few months after they started dating. ‘‘His family would get involved and plead with me, to forgive him. They’ve always condoned his behaviour to a point where I once got him arrested as he had badly beaten me up and they bailed him out and begged me to drop the charges.”

‘‘He would tell me how useless and how stupid I was. He would call me all sorts of names, but I stayed. He is manipulative and would always gaslight me.’’ She says her friends, his friends, her family and his family were random people on the streets.’’ Because sometimes he’d hit me and drag me in the streets where everyone could see. ‘‘He was always suspecting that I’m cheating, knowing very well that he›s the one that’s cheating. This is the guy that does things, and these things start eating him to the point where he thought I was doing the same things too. ‘‘My phone never had a password and he always insisted on going through it and usually found nothing. But his phone always had passwords and I wasn’t even allowed to touch it. He would get phone calls at night and I’m not even allowed to ask what›s happening or there›s gonna be war.’’

After the ordeal, she only managed to leave on Friday morning and opened a case against him. ‘‘He got arrested on Saturday midday. The whole abuse made me feel worthless. It made me feel weak and it traumatized me. It drained me. At some point I started blaming myself for attracting people. He told me that I can’t just leave him and continue with life as normal. He would come to my house and strangle me outside my gate. ‘‘He would push me inside the car, lock it and take me to his place by force.’’ Whenever she left him, he sent her photos of muthi and threatened to ruin her life. She said that he would tell her that once he had finished with her, no one would approach her.

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